Author’s Note
Respectfully is a playful exploration of desire, boundaries, and the contradictions that exist within intimacy and expression. It fuses humor, Gothic sensibilities, and erotic confession, embracing both the feral and the polite aspects of human longing. The poem isn’t just about lust—it’s about intent: how even the most untamed impulses can coexist with consent, respect, and self-awareness.
In crafting this piece, I wanted to explore the tension between saying exactly what you feel and maintaining decorum, the duality of a poet’s boldness and manners. Each “Respectfully” is both a comedic punctuation and a manifesto: you can want what you want, but you can also honor the boundaries of others—and yourself.
This poem celebrates the audacity of voice, the wit of language, and the sacredness of choice—where grammar and desire meet in an unapologetically Gothic, confessional way.
— Rowan Evans

Respectfully
Poetry by Rowan Evans
I’ve been known to say
some incredibly feral things—
and I always mean them.
I would let you absolutely ruin me.
Respectfully, of course.
I don’t mean to make you uncomfortable,
I just have no filter—
a poet’s curse, you see.
I speak in impulses and italics.
You could hold me down and choke me.
Respectfully, for real.
I would let you do unholy things to me.
Respectfully.
I would let you tie me up with rope—
You could bruise and break me.
Respectfully, I hope.
It’s not that I’m trying to shock you,
it’s just that desire sounds better
when it’s proofread with manners.
Like—yes, I’d sin,
but I’d also say please and thank you.
A gentlethem of chaos, if you will.
Every filthy line I write
is sealed with consent and courtesy.
That’s the difference between vulgar and art.
I say “I’d ruin your life,”
then I spell-check it for tone.
Respectfully.
If I ever send you a message that makes you blush,
know that I meant it—
but I also meant no harm.
It’s the duality of lust and decorum.
Saint in the streets,
Sinner with impeccable grammar.
So when I say,
“I’d let you wreck me in ways
that require a safety word and a sonnet,”
you’ll know it’s not a threat.
It’s a prayer with boundaries.
Because that’s who I am—
a walking contradiction in lipstick and ink,
a poet of piety and profanity,
who loves like a cathedral on fire
and means it…
Respectfully.
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