Author’s Note

People often decide who you are before you have the chance to speak. They carve a version of you that makes them comfortable, then hold it up like a mirror and expect you to recognize your own face.

This poem is about rejecting that reflection and reclaiming the right to define myself.

Rowan Evans


Androgynous person standing before a cracked mirror with fragmented reflections symbolizing identity and self-definition.
Sometimes the reflection others give you isn’t really yours. This poem is about reclaiming the right to define yourself.

Wearing My Name
Poetry by Rowan Evans

They say I’m just like them,
but I’m not like them—
swear I’m nothing like them.
They say I protest too much,
a double-edged sword, I guess.
Can’t stand up, can’t sit down—
can’t speak up, can’t make a sound.

They carve a version of me
that fits their comfort,
then hand it back
like a mirror.
But it’s not my face—
just their fear
wearing my name.

They say I’m just like men,
but I’m not like them.
So I distance myself
from who I used to be.
Now I’ll tell you
how I see myself,
truthfully.

I’m not the man they imagine,
not the echo they expect.
I’m the version I built
after breaking the mold
they tried to fit me in.

I’m not a man,
not a woman,
something in between,
King nor Queen—
I’m still royalty.
Master of emotion,
deity of poetry.
A precious soul
trying to keep hold
of my humanity.

Adorable, yeah—I’m cute,
and I know you know it too.
It’s okay.
You don’t have to say
a thing.

Of course you’re looking.
Why wouldn’t you?


If you’re interested in more poetry, you can find it here → [The Library of Ashes]

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